The Art of the Restart

Most People in Relationships Grow And Mature !

This is Art and Debbie.  They understand restarting, and have helped many others to restart.   It’s believing in the hope while like your in the middle of the impossible.  They are real heroes for many, including me. Also, they’re a couple behind other couples.  (See  Andy and Brittany coming soon).

I read once that we should allow people to have a fresh start every three years.   Meaning that we let go of our stereotypes, experiences, disappointments, and bias’. Fortunately most everybody changes and matures.   Oftentimes after  looking at someone from a new perspective,  I have learned about myself, and what I see as a result is not  always a pretty site.  I’ve  caught my self feeling jealous of others and later realized my thoughts were wrong.  Many  people who I had wrong ideas or notions about  were respected by others, causing me to realize I had them in a box.   They did grow and change. Many far exceeded myself in their abilities.  The same thing happens with our partners.  How come others liked the person I felt so upset with?   I was the person who needed a restart!

When I’m with someone everyday, changes seems to happen in slow motion.  If I allow that person the opportunity to learn and grow, while at the same time, I imagine them in the big picture becoming wiser, stronger, and even more able, then usually, I act and think differently towards them.  I am then  holding trust and faith in them, giving them the freedom to grow.  The result is that they usually feel loved and respected because I believed in them. That is the restart. It is the beginning of forgiveness.

This is what  God does with us.  He looks at us from an eternal perspective. He sees our potential and helps us get there.  His love never fails to bring out our best sides.  The depth and riches of God can be displayed in my life toward my loved ones.   Love is well described in the following verses.  Meditate on their meaning and pray them into committed relationships that will flourish even into old age.  This is what love does.

I Corinthians 13:4-17,  “Love is never tired of waiting; love is kind; love has no envy; love has no high opinion of itself, love has no pride;  Love’s ways are ever fair, it takes no thought for itself; it is not quickly made angry, it takes no account of evil; It takes no pleasure in wrongdoing, but has joy in what is true;  Love has the power of undergoing all things, having faith in all things, hoping all things.”  BBE

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