Protection is what God does most and best. He protects us from the consequences of our completely self destructive nature. Without him we are completely defenseless. With Him we are the victors, more that conquerors. If this is what our Father God does through Jesus the Groom then as imitators of Him, this is what we are to do also in our marriage.
When we follow our scripts (or scripture) we will provide protection to one another and ourselves. That was God’ purpose, to help us protect our vulnerabilities. Read this section of scripture and think of the concept of protection.
Ephesians 5:21 and you will submit to one another out of reverence for the Messiah.
Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of his wife as the Messiah is the head of the church. It is He who is the Savior of the body. Indeed, just as the church is submissive to the Messiah, so wives must be submissive to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives as the Messiah loved the church and gave himself for it, so that he might make it holy by cleansing it, washing it with water and the word, and might present the church to himself in all its glory, without a spot or wrinkle or anything of the kind, but holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands must love their wives as they love their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself. For no one has ever hated his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it, as the Messiah does the church. For we are parts of his body—of his flesh and of his bones. “That is why a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
This is a great secret, but I am talking about the Messiah and the church.
But each individual man among you must love his wife as he loves himself; and may the wife fear her husband.